Posts by RayoFlight2014

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The impact and consequences of being born into the jehovahs witness cult.

by RayoFlight2014 in

hi from new south wales australia.

fyi , it's tuesday 10th september 2:36am here.. i am categorically not going to blame the cult for every poor choice.

i am conscious of the fact that i was at a genetically determined disadvantage academically; i was never going to be outstanding in my achievements, no matter how hard i tried.

The impact and consequences of being born into the jehovahs witness cult.

by RayoFlight2014 in

hi from new south wales australia.

fyi , it's tuesday 10th september 2:36am here.. i am categorically not going to blame the cult for every poor choice.

i am conscious of the fact that i was at a genetically determined disadvantage academically; i was never going to be outstanding in my achievements, no matter how hard i tried.

RayoFlight2014

Fink, i get you.

"Forewarned is forearmed"

And " your mileage may vary"

All depends on your personal disposition, circumstance, environment and so many other factors that influence your choice of direction taken and also how proactive you are to make positive change in a hostile situation.

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The impact and consequences of being born into the jehovahs witness cult.

by RayoFlight2014 in

hi from new south wales australia.

fyi , it's tuesday 10th september 2:36am here.. i am categorically not going to blame the cult for every poor choice.

i am conscious of the fact that i was at a genetically determined disadvantage academically; i was never going to be outstanding in my achievements, no matter how hard i tried.

RayoFlight2014

Truthlover123, hi,

Isn't it peculiar how we can have such mirrored experiances?

I guess it makes sense when we were part of an organization that insists on unity of thought and teaching globally to have that similarity particularly during the same time period so we were impacted by the same world events as well.

Sorry to hear your son has not recovered so well, but time and dilligent research with supportive community can do wonders. Also you have to allow yourself to go through the grieving process to be able to move forward. And most importantly to seek professional psychological help or intervention before letting the trauma be all encompassing and consuming.

Being so genetically different even within a family group we tend to have vastly different responses and reactions to trauma and even confrontation.

We should have empathy for those that don't cope so well, firm but fair and mild in our approach.

I have a lot of love for my family and I let them know regularly, I would love to have deep and meaningful conversations with them but that just doesn't happen unfortunately.

I know full well where their minds are at and I understand they are just as genuinely concerned for my spiritual welfare as I would have been when I was fully in. And that concern comes from a place that has love at its core.

Thank you for your kind and well thought out words.

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The impact and consequences of being born into the jehovahs witness cult.

by RayoFlight2014 in

hi from new south wales australia.

fyi , it's tuesday 10th september 2:36am here.. i am categorically not going to blame the cult for every poor choice.

i am conscious of the fact that i was at a genetically determined disadvantage academically; i was never going to be outstanding in my achievements, no matter how hard i tried.

RayoFlight2014

Hi DOC,

Yes to be assertive in that environment can clash with the leadership, most of the elder body were good men in my experience at that congregation but there was an element of power tripping with a select few and they were not kindly.

And saying no to my father was a difficult thing to do. I was respectful though, not just because I was living under his roof but that is my disposition.

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The impact and consequences of being born into the jehovahs witness cult.

by RayoFlight2014 in

hi from new south wales australia.

fyi , it's tuesday 10th september 2:36am here.. i am categorically not going to blame the cult for every poor choice.

i am conscious of the fact that i was at a genetically determined disadvantage academically; i was never going to be outstanding in my achievements, no matter how hard i tried.

RayoFlight2014

Thanks to all so far for your responses.

I'm at work at the moment, but I will return with some measured replies after work.

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The impact and consequences of being born into the jehovahs witness cult.

by RayoFlight2014 in

hi from new south wales australia.

fyi , it's tuesday 10th september 2:36am here.. i am categorically not going to blame the cult for every poor choice.

i am conscious of the fact that i was at a genetically determined disadvantage academically; i was never going to be outstanding in my achievements, no matter how hard i tried.

RayoFlight2014

98 percent with you Simon, and Thank you for your input.

As I expressed in my original post I categorically will Not blame watchtower for every negative aspect. As can be seen I came from disadvantage and the encouragement by watchtower to read fed into my appetite for wonder that was already there thus increasing my vocabulary and leading to my eventual exit.

By contrast the rest of my siblings were not so inclined and perhaps don't have the capacity or patience to read beyond the approved material.

I certainly don't want us to wallow in self pity, but to see what has impacted us, what we can change, and to be proud of how far we have come despite forces to the contrary.

However I don't think that everyone focuses on the negative, perhaps the greater majority do because that is what impacts us to a greater extent.

To be fair we talk more about tornadoes and hurricanes that impacted us negatively than the sunny days that follow.

Thanks again Simon for providing an alternative thought to challenge our perspectives. Cheers.

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The impact and consequences of being born into the jehovahs witness cult.

by RayoFlight2014 in

hi from new south wales australia.

fyi , it's tuesday 10th september 2:36am here.. i am categorically not going to blame the cult for every poor choice.

i am conscious of the fact that i was at a genetically determined disadvantage academically; i was never going to be outstanding in my achievements, no matter how hard i tried.

RayoFlight2014

Hi Fink, i agree that the the cognitive dissonance affects most who encounter watchtower/Jehovah's witness indoctrination.

Their reaction is to be dismissive and defensive or they firmly plant their heads in the sand and ignore what can plainly be seen and verified.

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The impact and consequences of being born into the jehovahs witness cult.

by RayoFlight2014 in

hi from new south wales australia.

fyi , it's tuesday 10th september 2:36am here.. i am categorically not going to blame the cult for every poor choice.

i am conscious of the fact that i was at a genetically determined disadvantage academically; i was never going to be outstanding in my achievements, no matter how hard i tried.

RayoFlight2014

Hi there, iwantoutnow!

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The impact and consequences of being born into the jehovahs witness cult.

by RayoFlight2014 in

hi from new south wales australia.

fyi , it's tuesday 10th september 2:36am here.. i am categorically not going to blame the cult for every poor choice.

i am conscious of the fact that i was at a genetically determined disadvantage academically; i was never going to be outstanding in my achievements, no matter how hard i tried.

RayoFlight2014

Hey Fink,

Yes I indeed can relate to your comments.

My cousin is one of those who committed suicide and I particularly want talk to Wazza from this forum, he may have seen my cousin just prior to the tragedy and have some information I desire.

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The impact and consequences of being born into the jehovahs witness cult.

by RayoFlight2014 in

hi from new south wales australia.

fyi , it's tuesday 10th september 2:36am here.. i am categorically not going to blame the cult for every poor choice.

i am conscious of the fact that i was at a genetically determined disadvantage academically; i was never going to be outstanding in my achievements, no matter how hard i tried.

RayoFlight2014

Hi Zing, and Thank you for your kind welcome.

To answer your question about why I left the jw world, well it's complex but I'll try to be succinct.

I had close contact with some who claimed to be of the annointed who we're treated poorly for highlighting the apparent conditional love and cliques within the congregation.

I could not reconcile with only jw's surviving Armageddon, when I could see such goodness in the folk I met in field service.

Stopped being a yes man.

And I learnt the power of.... no!

Came to realise it was never really my free choice to be a jw or not, given the reaction of my parents when I told them I would no longer be going to the meetings.